You're Not Doing It Wrong...I'm Just Doing It Different!

This one a little different for me...

As you all know by now, Im a Twitter-a-holic.  And, by being such, I have developed relationships with some of the best agents around the country.  I currently interact online with nearly 700 real estate professionals in all walks of the industry.

One of the people I interact with regularly is a wonderful young woman in Fredericksburg, VA, by the name of Sarah Stelmok.  Sarah is a wonderful person, a consummate professional, a continuing education trainer, and a dang good blogger.  (She is also currently taking referrals from www.recr.com in several areas...which means I like her A LOT!!)  Aside from that, I highly recommend you check her out at www.sarahiouslyspeaking.com.  In short, this lady is on point. Period.

So, imagine my surprise when Sarah contacted me last night and asked me to read a blog post that she was working on...I almost fell out of my chair!  With what can only be considered as a squeal (much like the one that would be uttered by a 6yr old girlscout when surprised) I agreed...and what I read was not only good...but great.  So, with her permission, I am posting the entire blog here!

You're Not Doing It Wrong, I'm Just Doing It Different

I've stopped counting the number of times I've been told that social media is a waste of my time, or the number of times someone has referred to it as a "young person's tool", or the number of times someone has rolled their eyes when I've mentioned that I Tweet.      

I entered the real estate business in 2004.  I was trained at a very well-respected company by well-respected agents.  I was told to learn from their experiences.  My first month on the job consisted of reading real estate books, waiting on my license to come in.  I read about keeping in contact with my clients via newsletters and postcards.  I read about the power of numbers.  I read about print advertising and attracting buyers and sellers through print media.  I read until I figured out that even blind squirrels stumble across a nut or two.  I had a desk in the "bull-pen" and the advantage of watching some of the company's top producers in action.  I never observed people coming in to the office to work with the elite agents because they had received an insightful newsletter.  I never heard their clients mention the fantastic recipe they had received from their agent either.  What I did see was the need for the client to be guided by this agent.  Their clients needed to have access to their knowledge and their professional sphere.  They worked with these top producers because they believed they did a good job.  I also noticed that the top producing REALTORS had taken time to cultivate their audience.  They didn't start out in the business as the elite.  They worked their way up systematically and developed a following.  As a young agent, age-wise and experience level, this was a very important phenomenon to behold.

But, ever diligent, I remembered my early training and the advice that so many had bestowed on me and plugged away at the newsletters, postcards, and stagnant website.  I followed the lead my company was offering and questioned very little.  However, nothing ever felt right.  I applied for and received the production awards.  I touted my production from the roof tops.  I looked the part, dressed in my REALTOR-wear - slacks, button-up shirt, and heels, but I didn't believe in the part.  I didn't feel comfortable in the skin I was told to live and work in.  I was truly acting my way through real estate. 

I was bored and it was only my third year in the business.  My numbers were good, but there was no joy in my career.  So, I began exploring the blogging world.  And everything finally made sense.  I realized I didn't want to talk at my clients; I want to talk WITH my clients.  I want my clients to take advantage of my knowledge.  I want them to have the ability to respond to what I tell them and question what I tell them.  I wanted my clients to be able to interact with me.  I want to engage those in my community and in my profession.  I want to build a following, not because of an end product, but because of the possibility of continued growth.  I want to BLOG. 

Social media has been a natural progression for me.  I am always amazed at how many people I touch every day and how many people touch me.  I am also always amazed at the feedback I get via comments or personal emails about my blog posts.  Social media has allowed me to grow in ways I didn't think possible.  It's not about the number of hits a blog site gets, or the number of readers.  Social media isn't a numbers game.  Having the most "friends" or "followers" doesn't mean much if what you are promoting lacks substance.  Social media is about the relationships that develop and the trust that follows.  Social media is about the big picture.         

I'm not saying that blogging is for everyone.  And, I'm not saying that if you're not blogging you're doing it wrong.  What I am saying is that blogging feels right for me.  Blogging feels right for my clients and it feels right for my business.  You're not doing it wrong; I'm just doing it different.

 

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27 commentsClint Miller • January 20 2009 09:15AM

Comments

Clint - great post and Sarah - I love your story and how you are doing things your way.  Blogging and social media are not for everyone whether it's time, comfort level, etc. but if it is working for you embrace it and enjoy it.  What you said about numbers really hit me - it's so true - don't try to keep up with everyone else - do what feels right to you and good things will come.  Like you, I too am discovering my reach and love the interactions and partnerships I am building with blogging and social media.  Continued success to both you and Clint. ~Anne Marie

Posted by Anne Marie Malfi, Real Estate Marketing Consultant/Virtual Asst, Bucks County,PA (Malfi Marketing Solutions ~ for real estate professionals) about 1 year ago

Anne -- Yeah, dont thank me...Thank Sarah!  She did the real writing here.  Im just the middle-man...lol

Posted by Clint Miller (Real Estate Client Referrals, LLC (RECR)) about 1 year ago

There is always something new to learn and a new application that others are ignoring.  Clint is right, Sarah is a terrific agent!

Posted by Lesley Lambert (413-575-3611) Real Estate Agent,Realtor,Westfield, MA, (Park Square Realty serving Western MA) about 1 year ago

Lesley -- Yes, there is!!  And, you can either adapt to it, or get run over by those that do!  Sarah is a perfect example of it.  And, you are right...she is dynamite!

Posted by Clint Miller (Real Estate Client Referrals, LLC (RECR)) about 1 year ago

Wow-- this was a great blog, both of hers and your intro.

Very inspiring....worth all agents reading!

Thanks for sharing,

TD

Posted by Tamara Dorris (Davis & Davis ) about 1 year ago

Tamara -- Awww, thanks!  I am quite happy with it as well.  :-)  Sarah is a great blogger...and a super-agent.  If you look closely, you can see a cape...lol

Posted by Clint Miller (Real Estate Client Referrals, LLC (RECR)) about 1 year ago

I saw Sarah's post on Varbuzz last night. I thought it was very well written and the message on target. Great job Sarah!

Posted by Craig W. Barrett - Hughesville MD Real Estate (RE/MAX 100) about 1 year ago

Craig -- Much agreed!!  She is 'da bomb'.

Posted by Clint Miller (Real Estate Client Referrals, LLC (RECR)) about 1 year ago

Clint,

Sarah's blog may be different, but it's right on target!!! She's a winner!!! Thanks,   Fran

Posted by Fran 'The Title Man' Gaspari Title Insurance-PA & NJ (Patriot Land Transfer, Inc.) about 1 year ago

Fran -- Yup...Much agreed.  She is awesome in just about every way. :-)

Posted by Clint Miller (Real Estate Client Referrals, LLC (RECR)) about 1 year ago

Hi there! Enjoyed both posts Clint. You know you don't have to convince me to blog and/or differentiate, and you don't have to convince me what a great guy you are!

Posted by Susie Blackmon~Ocala~Horses~Horse Farms~Social Media for Horse Industry. about 1 year ago

Susie -- Awwwwww.....Im blushing! :-)  Thank you so much for reading, commenting, and for the very kind words!  Much appreciated!

Posted by Clint Miller (Real Estate Client Referrals, LLC (RECR)) about 1 year ago

Thanks for re-blogging this, as I hadn't seen the original post.  I feel as though there are many different ways to be successful in real estate.  One must find something they are comfortable with, and what works for them.  Personally, I love working with new technology, interacting with clients, and being creative with the internet.  I only discovered blogging a few months ago, but am truly addicted.

Posted by Troy Erickson - Your Chandler, Gilbert, Queen Creek Realtor (Terra Solis Realty, LLC) about 1 year ago

Troy -- Well, I didnt think I had much of a choice since she asked me to read it before it was posted...LOL!  And I agree with you.  I do think that this is the way that the industry is headed...and embracing it now will only set you up for future success...IMHO.

Posted by Clint Miller (Real Estate Client Referrals, LLC (RECR)) about 1 year ago

Clint - Great choice in guest blogger.  I'm a big fan of Sarah's anyway.  And her domain name is freaking awesome - sarahiouslyspeaking.com - I mean, really?  How great is that!

Sarah - What can I say that you didn't say?  I think every new struggling blogger should read this - it should come free with your first Wordpress download or ActiveRain account.  Awesome post.

Both of you - Consider this one re-blogged by me now.

Posted by Matt Stigliano (RE/MAX Access (210) 646-HOME) about 1 year ago

Matt -- Thank you so much!  And yes...she has a whip-ass domain name!  :-)  And, thanks for the re-blog, brotha!  Much appreciated!

 

Posted by Clint Miller (Real Estate Client Referrals, LLC (RECR)) about 1 year ago

Hi Everyone!  The love is very much appreciated!  I can't express how awesome it is that this post has caught on. 

Matt- Feel free to re-blog!  And the domain name is courtesy of @billlublin.  It was either Sarahiously Speaking or Caturine the Great.  I think I picked the best one!  ;) 

Posted by Sarah Stelmok about 1 year ago

Sarah -- You deserve it, my dear...Awesome post!!  And, yes...you did pick the better one. LOL

Posted by Clint Miller (Real Estate Client Referrals, LLC (RECR)) about 1 year ago

I read this over on Sarah's blog and loved it!  You have very good taste in bloggers :)

Posted by Lisa Heindel, New Orleans West Bank Real Estate (Keller Williams Realty Crescent City West Bank Partners) about 1 year ago

Lisa -- I know, right??  She's worth featuring! :-)

Posted by Clint Miller (Real Estate Client Referrals, LLC (RECR)) about 1 year ago

Clint, its fantastic that you have shared this with your readers and exposed Sarah to a few new faces.  As you stated, the blog is great.

Posted by John Cannata - LegacyTexas Mortgage Sr Loan Officer - Frisco Texas ( 972-325-4912 Also available evenings and weekends) about 1 year ago

This was great Clint.  I believe that we all need to find our own way to succeed and no one should be telling us what we are doing is wrong.  I am off to checkout her blog now.

Posted by Paddy Pizappi PineBush & Hudson Valley NY Real Estate (RJ Smith Realty Real Estate Solutions) about 1 year ago

John -- Thank you so much for understanding my view on this.  And, yes it is...

Paddy -- Thank you so much!  You will not be unhappy that you did! :-)

Posted by Clint Miller (Real Estate Client Referrals, LLC (RECR)) about 1 year ago

Hey Clint--thanks for posting Sarah's blog. I'm pretty new to SM, but it has been a more natural and fun way to build my business. I'm a Gen Yer and have been on SM sites for years, so coming into a web 2.0 way of doing business has been great transition!

Posted by Nicole Lahti, Austin Texas Mortgage (United Lending) about 1 year ago

Nicole -- You are welcome! I was honored to do so!  That is the same way I feel about it...and Im happy to share that youre not the only one! Keep it up!

Posted by Clint Miller (Real Estate Client Referrals, LLC (RECR)) about 1 year ago

What Sarah says makes a lot of sense, and it sounds like she's found her place, which is always wonderful.

Posted by Christine Donovan Costa Mesa Real Estate Broker/Attorney 800-610-7253 DRE01267479 (Donovan Blatt Team - Donovan Group Realty) about 1 year ago

Christine -- I couldnt agree with you more.

Posted by Clint Miller (Real Estate Client Referrals, LLC (RECR)) about 1 year ago

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